What is Toxic Positivity? (And why you should be careful of it, especially during the holidays)

Don’t Tell People to Be Joyful, Ask Them How They Are Instead As an 8-year old child, Christmas was wonderous and magical for me. I loved the food, the music and, of course, the gifts. Everything about it was a delight. I remember being in church on Christmas Eve. It was my favorite service of …

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Daily Relationship Routines for Long-Lasting Love

Long-lasting love is built every single day. Prevention and consistency are not sexy. You daydream about romantic getaways with white sand beaches. And worry about betrayal and abandonment in the wee hours of the morning. But you probably don’t use much of your brain space thinking about what your relationship is like on a normal …

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Quiz: What’s Your Conflict Style?

There Is More Than One Way to “Fight Fair.” (Three to Be Exact) The Gottmans’ research shows that there is more than one right way to manage conflict. They observed research participants discussing things they disagreed about and the results were groundbreaking. Although therapists have been teaching active listening for decades, we now know that …

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9 Things Your Therapist Might Not Be Telling You

Being a therapist is the best job in the entire world. I absolutely love my work. This surprises many people as they assume that listening to other people’s problems is a negative experience for the therapist. They believe perhaps that we are working out of altruism. For me, the truth is that the therapeutic work …

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