5 Day Love Language Challenge

5 Day Love Languages Challenge Starting June 17th, 2024

Healthy relationships are not built with conflict resolution skills or shared interests or hobbies, they thrive from solid friendships and treating each other lovingly. I kid you not, it is way simpler than it seems.

1️⃣ Watch the intro video above.

2️⃣ Share this page with your partner and let them know you plan to complete this challenge (it will work even if they don't do it as well, but obviously more fun if they do)

3️⃣ Sign up below for the assignments to be emailed to your inbox one day at a time.

4️⃣ Watch the assignment video and complete it within 24 hours

5️⃣ At the end of the week, talk to your partner to learn what worked and what didn't Most of all: HAVE FUN ❣️

Take the Love Languages Challenge June 17, 2024


Jump-Start Your Relationship in Just 5 Days

Get closer in a week with 5 daily assignments based on NYT Best Seller,  The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapmen.

Sign up below to join the 5 Day Love Language Challenge Video Series. Your homework will be delivered to your inbox every day for a week so you and your partner can both feel more loved! 💕

What is this Love Languages Challenge All About?

Are you ready to take your relationship to the next level?

The 5-Day Love Languages Challenge combines the research of Dr. John Gottman with renown marriage counselor, Dr. Gary Chapman to help you find ways to stay more connected throughout your busy weeks.

Whether you are newlyweds or have been together for years, this challenge might be just what you are looking for.

The concept of love languages, popularized by Dr. Gary Chapman, suggests that everyone has a primary love language, a way in which they most feel loved and appreciated. By understanding and speaking your partner's love language, you can build a stronger and more satisfying relationship. And we know from The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work that turning toward your partner on a regular basis is one of the core factors that leads to relationship longevity.

In this 5-day challenge, you will reach out to your partner once per day with each of the five different Love Languages. While Chapman expresses the importance of knowing both how you like to give and receive love, this challenge will focus on giving love. Gottman emphasizes the importance of making what he calls "bids for connection" to deposit money into your partner's "emotional bank account." By reaching out to your partner once per day, you'll be taking a small but important step to let your partner know that they are a priority in your life, even in the midst of your busy week.

Each day, you will watch a short video and then choose an activity to offer your partner within 24 hours. By the end of the challenge, you will discover what felt good and what didn't work so well so that you can learn how to connect better.

Are you ready to give this a try? Let's get started!

What are the 5 Love Languages?

The concept of 5 love languages, was introduced by Dr. Gary Chapman, in his book, The 5 Love Languages. The concept revolves around the idea that individuals express and receive love in different ways.

These languages include:

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Quality Time
  • Acts of Service
  • Physical Touch
  • Receiving Gifts.

Each individual has a primary love language through which they feel most valued and appreciated. Understanding these languages is the key to unlocking a deeper level of intimacy and connection in your relationship.

In essence, Words of Affirmation involve verbal expressions of love and appreciation. For individuals whose primary love language is Words of Affirmation, hearing heartfelt compliments, words of encouragement, and expressions of love hold immense significance. Quality Time emphasizes the value of undivided attention and shared experiences. Acts of Service entail performing thoughtful gestures and acts of kindness to demonstrate love. Physical Touch involves the power of physical closeness and affectionate gestures. Receiving Gifts symbolizes love through meaningful and thoughtful presents that convey thoughtfulness and care.

What are the 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work, According to John Gottman?

In his book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage work,  John Gottman, a renowned relationship expert, has identified seven essential principles that can significantly impact the health and longevity of a partnership. Drawing on his extensive research and years of experience working with couples, Gottman's insights provide a roadmap for nurturing a strong and loving relationship.

With a focus on the fundamental elements that promote closeness and intimacy, these principles offer practical guidance for couples at any stage of their relationship. From effective communication and conflict resolution to friendship and shared values, Gottman's principles delve deep into the core aspects that lay the foundation for a lasting and happy marriage.

By incorporating these principles into your own relationship, you can create a solid framework to weather the storms and enjoy the journey of marriage together. 

The seven essential principles for a successful and fulfilling marriage, as outlined by John Gottman include:

  • Building Love Maps -- knowing each other
  • Nurturing Fondness and Admiration -- saying the good stuff out loud
  • Turning Toward Each Other Instead of Away -- making bids for connection
  • The Positive Perspective -- cherishing the love in front of you instead of focusing on the imperfections
  • Managing Conflict -- talking about differences clearly, directly and respectfully
  • Making Life Dreams Come True -- supporting your partner in finding their own happiness
  • Creating Shared Meaning -- working together to build a life together

Most relationship advice focuses on the negative aspects of love, such as assessing for toxicity, or teaching conflict management skills. As you can see above, six of the seven principles listed above are about building positivity instead of about reducing negativity.

This 5 Day Love Languages Challenge will strengthen the following 6 principles

  1. Strengthen love maps by learning your partner's love language.
  2. Nurture fondness and admiration by helping your partner feel more loved
  3. Turning toward your partner by carving out time in your day to let them know they are a priority
  4. The positive perspective is built by looking for good things about your relationship instead of problems
  5. Making life dreams come true doesn't happen in one dramatic mment. It happens through consistently showing up for one another to express your care and desire for them to be happy.
  6. Creating shared meaning comes from speaking each other's love languages in small frequent ways throughout your busy lives.

How the 5 Day Love Languages Challenge Can Help

The 5 Day Love Languages Challenge offers a structured and practical approach to enhancing your relationship by focusing on each of the five love languages over the course of five days. This intentional effort allows you to  explore ways to incorporate them into your daily interactions with your partner.

By making deposits into your partner's emotional bank account once per day, you'll just be one step closer to understanding what helps you feel close, connected and loved.

5 Day Love Languages Challenge Schedule

The challenge will start on June 17th. Now is the time to talk to your partner, let them know you plan to do the challenge and invite them to sign up as well.

Day 1 Monday

Words of Affirmation

Day 4 Thursday

Gift Giving

Day 2 Tuesday

Physical Touch

Day 5 Friday

Quality Time

Day 3 Wednesday

Acts of Service

Day 6 and On

You Choose

Are you ready to get started?

Let's Go!

Day 1: Words of Affirmation

On the first day of the Love Languages Challenge, you will delve into the realm of Words of Affirmation. Take this opportunity to express your love and appreciation for your partner through heartfelt words and affirmations. Whether it's a simple "I love you" or a heartfelt compliment, verbal affirmations can have a profound impact on your partner's emotional well-being. Pay attention to the words you use and the tone in which you speak, as they can convey love and warmth in ways that actions cannot.

Day 2: Acts of Service

The second day of the challenge focuses on Acts of Service, where you showcase your love through thoughtful actions and gestures. Whether it's preparing a meal, running errands, or helping out with chores, acts of service demonstrate your commitment to supporting and caring for your partner. Pay attention to their needs and find ways to alleviate their burdens through acts of kindness and service. These actions speak volumes about your love and dedication to their well-being.

Day 3: Receiving Gifts

Day 3 of the Love Languages Challenge highlights the significance of giving and receiving gifts as an expression of love. While gifts may seem materialistic on the surface, they hold deeper symbolic value in the realm of love languages. Take this opportunity to select or create a meaningful gift for your partner that reflects your understanding of their desires and preferences. The thought and effort put into choosing a gift can convey your love and appreciation in a tangible and memorable way.

Day 4: Quality Time

Quality Time takes center stage on the fourth day of the challenge, emphasizing the importance of shared experiences and undivided attention. Set aside distractions and dedicate quality time to engage with your partner in meaningful conversations, activities, or simply being present together. Quality time allows you to strengthen your emotional connection, build memories, and deepen your bond with your partner. By prioritizing quality time, you demonstrate your commitment to nurturing your relationship.

Day 5: Physical Touch

The final day of the Love Languages Challenge focuses on the love language of Physical Touch, which encompasses the power of physical closeness, affection, and intimacy. Physical touch has the ability to convey love, comfort, and security in ways that words often cannot. Take this day to express your love through hugs, kisses, hand-holding, or other physical gestures that communicate your affection and care. Physical touch plays a vital role in fostering emotional connection and intimacy in a relationship.

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Certified Gottman Therapist, Laura Silverstein, LCSW, Michael Silverstein, Ph.D.

About the Instructor

Laura Silverstein, LCSW is a certified Gottman Couples Therapist who regularly leads workshops with her husband in addition to co-owning and operating Main Line Counseling Partners, a small group practice outside of Philadelphia.

The 5 Day Love Languages Challenge as a Way to Improve Daily life

The 5 Day Love Languages Challenge is also based on the instructor's book, Love is an Action Verb which explores the idea that love is not just a feeling but a deliberate choice and action. Silverstein explains step by step how to actively show love through kindness, empathy, and compassion in our relationships and daily interactions.
The book challenges the notion that love is solely based on romantic gestures or grand expressions, instead highlighting the significance of small, consistent acts of love in fostering deep connections and meaningful relationships.
The 5 Day Love Languages Challenge combines the concepts of her book as well as integrating the work of Drs. Gottman and Chapman.
Love Is an Action Verb Workbook