What are the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse that lead to the end of the world? Death. Famine. War. Destruction. (Book of Revelation (6:1–8) Who is John Gottman and what are the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse that kill relationships? Criticism Defensiveness Contempt and Stonewalling. (John Gottman’s Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work) Be Not Afraid … Read more
Why conversation starters? Over time conversations with your partner might begin to feel shallow and focused more on the daily grind than topics that actually matter. This is normal. It’s probably not a dangerous red flag that your relationship is about to end, but it is likely unsatisfying and monotonous. It’s quite easy to reignite … Read more
Question from Our Reader about In-Home Date Night Ideas Reader: What are some ideas for couples to connect when they have young children? We don’t have a babysitter to actually go out on a date night. Hey there, fellow parent and thanks so much for writing in with your question! Here are my thoughts: Firstly, … Read more
You might be working hard to hide it from the world, but on the inside, it might feel like you are boiling over with feeling jealousy in your relationship. Like you can’t help but compare yourself to everyone your partner talks to, wondering if they will steal them away from you? It’s a common feeling, … Read more
Are you feeling like a roommate rather than a spouse? You are not alone if you feel more like a roommate in your marriage than an intimate partner. You and your spouse are busy! (And so are your kids, pets, friends, and extended family. ) Many important people in your life are worthy of your … Read more
Are you looking for a printable Gottman relationship workbook to strengthen your relationship? Deepen the connection with your partner with over 70 exercises to do with your partner. This relationship workbook offers exercises and guidance for building a strong and lasting bond with your loved one. Whether you’re newly together or have been in a … Read more
One of the most frequent responses to the love language quiz is: “Words of Affirmation.” And principle number two of John Gottman’s Seven Principles for Making Marriage work is: “Nurture Your Fondness and Admiration.” When most couples think about improving their relationships, they focus on learning communication skills or conflict resolution strategies. The truth is, … Read more
When your partner is upset, it’s easy to make mistakes that make the situation worse rather than better. Recognizing and avoiding these common mistakes will help you create healthier relationships with improved communication and conflict-resolution skills. 5 Avoidable Communication Mistakes You Might Be Making If you are experiencing arguments or “dumb” fights in your relationship, … Read more
If you are wondering when to call it quits on your marriage, you are not alone. This is probably the most common question given to marriage and family therapists. Recently I asked my audience to send in their questions and here is what I received back from one of my readers. When should I call … Read more
Find Out Your Intimacy Style With a Free Relationship Personality Quiz What’s your intimacy style? (Physical, Emotional or Intellectual) Are you curious about your intimacy style and how it affects your relationship? Take this free and informative quiz to discover your natural tendency when it comes to intimacy and learn specific personalized tips for improving … Read more