These “elements of style” might just keep you off the couch tonight. “This is just the kind of silly nonsense up with which I shall not put.” Author unknown, but definitely not Winston Churchill. You are an excellent communicator. You read the classics and the poets and are well-spoken and articulate. So it is a mystery … Read more
There Is More Than One Way to “Fight Fair.” (Three to Be Exact) Find out your preferred way to resolve conflict with a Conflict Style Assessment. The Gottmans’ research shows that there is more than one right way to manage conflict. They observed research participants discussing things they disagreed about and the results were groundbreaking. … Read more
When people first hear the word commitment, they often think of it in terms of vows said in front of a room full of people. In truth, commitment is incredibly private. Happy couples don’t just say “I do” once; they find a way to reinforce it to one another daily. It happens way before a … Read more
I am a therapist and I absolutely love my work. This surprises many people as they assume that listening to other people’s problems is unpleasant. They believe perhaps that we are working out of altruism. For me, the truth is that the therapeutic work nourishes me, and I benefit from the clinical relationship just as … Read more
A Roadmap to a Better Relationship If you are in love, you understand the importance of taking good care of your precious relationship. You are willing to put your heart and soul into having the best relationship you can have, but you might not know where to start. It’s Time to Test Your Love Most … Read more
None of us want to be fighting with our loved ones. We have a long list of things we’d much rather be doing, yet once we get sucked into an argument, it can take hours (or weeks?) to get out. There is surprising new information available from top relationship researcher Dr. John Gottman. After a 30 year-long study … Read more