Love Test: What Does Your Relationship Need Right Now?

Take the Love Test to find out …

Are you the kind of couple that loves worksheets and free eBooks? Or are you considering couples therapy? Perhaps a weekend getaway far from your busy lives is exactly what you need. Are you taking as many free relationship classes as you can find, or willing to invest a little more if needed?

Here is a love test for you, developed by a certified, Gottman-trained couples therapist. Answer ten questions to get a personalized recommendation based on your specific situation.

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Take our Love Test to Find Resources Based on Your Needs and Learning Style

Are you curious to know if you and your partner have what it takes for a long-lasting relationship?

It’s not a random question and the answer is quite clear.

Couples who work on their relationship health are happier than those who don’t. And the only way to attain life-long relationship happiness is to carve out time to prioritize your love on a daily basis.

Welcome to the ultimate Love Test that will analyze the results of your responses and reveal your recommended next steps. Whether you’re in the early stages of a new relationship or have been together for years, this test will provide you with valuable insights into your relationship challenges and help you navigate the intricate complexities of love.

Designed by a licensed relationship expert, this Love Test goes beyond superficial attributes and dives deep into the core aspects that determine relationship success. Not everyone needs couples therapy, but all relationships need to be nourished in order to survive.

It’s crucial to add wellness routines to your daily schedules to make sure you don’t slowly drift apart to the point where you feel lonely in your relationship or like roommates instead of romantic partners.

Our comprehensive questionnaire will assess your budget, level of relationship distress, and learning styles to provide tailored recommendations for products and services that will help your relationship thrive. There are many vital ingredients that contribute to a lasting connection, and it’s worthwhile to take a Love Test to make sure you’re giving your partnership the TLC it deserves.

Discover where you and your partner shine and where you might have rough edges that need smoothing. Uncover aspects of your compatibility that you may not have considered before. And gain a greater understanding and appreciation for each other, as you embark on this journey of self-discovery and relationship growth.

Five Relationship Resource Categories:

  1. Traditional Weekly Couples Therapy
  2. Intensive Two-day Couples Therapy Sessions
  3. Live, In-Person Couples Retreats (at a romantic, remote location)
  4. Self-Paced DIY Couples Retreats (on your laptop at home or away)
  5. Free Classes and Educational Resources (Books, Workbooks, Articles and Podcasts)

Which Program is Right for You?

Main Line Counseling Partners, offers a wide range of resources, including products and services from all five categories (prices range from free to $225 per 50 minutes).

Of course, this love test (like all BuzzFeed type quizzes) is for educational purposes only. It is meant to give you ideas to talk to your partner about as you research your best options for the specific needs of your unique situation.

People often ask, “How do I know if we need therapy?”

In many ways, people are asking the wrong question. Instead of asking, “Do we need therapy?” Some better questions might be:

“What does our relationship need right now?”

“How do we learn best?”

“Should we talk to an expert and hear their opinion?”

“What do we both feel ready for?”

It might be a lot easier for you two to do a workbook together, while other couples would have better luck at a weekend getaway retreat. Some prefer to take the traditional route of assessment and treatment from a licensed couples therapist.

Improving your relationship is similar to learning to play tennis in some ways. If you want to improve your game, you could go away to a tennis camp, find a coach to teach you private lessons, go to a clinic with other tennis students, or even watch free YouTube videos and teach yourself.

There are many ways to learn new skills and many factors determine the best approach to take at any given time.

Here is a review of the five main kinds of relationship improvement resources with links to the products and services we either offer here in house, or other reputable sources that we confidently recommend:

We use an updated version of the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy here at Main Line Counseling Partners. All of our couples therapists are Gottman-trained, and we make adjustments to keep the approach current. If you are looking for a couples therapist, and live in the state of Pennsylvania, use this link to schedule a call with our Intake Coordinator.

Once you discuss the specific nature of your questions or concerns, we will connect you with the couples therapist who has availability and experience working with your specific challenge

Gottman-trained couples therapists offer two-day intensive couples therapy sessions. You can learn more about these sessions HERE.

Our co-owners, Dr. Michael Silverstein and Certified Gottman Couple Therapist, Laura Silverstein, LCSW are hosting a Weekend Getaway Couples Retreat in the Pocono Mountains (PA) April 5th-7th 2024. You can learn more HERE.

The Gottman Institute offers the Art and Science of Love Workshops all over the country. You can find a retreat near you HERE. 

While most people prefer live, in-person retreats to online learning, many do not have the time or financial resources to get away for a weekend.

We have created a DIY alternative to live retreats with an online weekend couples retreat based on Love Is an Action Verb, by Laura Silverstein. It costs only $97 and you can learn more HERE.

The number of books, articles, and podcasts about relationship health is uncountable. But it can be very difficult to discern whether or not the advice is coming from a reputable source (vs. a well-meaning person sharing what they learned from their first break-up).

We recommend researching where the author or facilitator completed their training. There is immense value in lived experience, as we are all one big human race trying our best to love and be loved. So it is helpful to listen to all opinions with all different sources of information and advice.

Since we are relational scholars, we tend toward evidence-based approaches that are backed by research. Here is a list of some of our favorite free and low-cost relationship materials:

Hope you found this love test helpful, and I hope you get what you need from your relationship today 💕

The Love Test: How it works

Numerous factors influence what kind of self-care you need in a relationship. While every couple is unique, there are some key elements that play a significant role in determining relationship health. These factors include:

1. Shared values and goals: When partners have similar values and goals, they are more likely to have a harmonious relationship. This involves aligning beliefs, priorities, and aspirations for the future.

2. Communication styles: Effective communication is vital for a healthy relationship. Partners who can communicate openly, honestly, and respectfully are more likely to resolve conflicts and understand each other’s needs.

3. Emotional intimacy: Emotional intimacy is the ability to connect on a deep emotional level. It involves being vulnerable, sharing fears and dreams, and providing emotional support to each other.

4. Trust and respect: Trust and respect are the foundations of any successful relationship. When partners trust and respect each other, they feel secure in the relationship and are more likely to maintain a strong connection.

5. Conflict resolution skills: Conflicts are inevitable in any relationship, but how they are handled can make or break a partnership. Partners who can navigate conflicts with patience, empathy, and a willingness to find solutions are more likely to have a compatible relationship.

By understanding these factors, you can assess your compatibility with your partner and identify areas that may need improvement. The Love Test will help you explore these factors in detail and provide insights into your compatibility quotient.

Taking the Love Test: Step-by-step guide

The Love Test is a comprehensive questionnaire designed to assess next steps for partners to enjoy a healthy relationship.

  1. Share the quiz link with your partner
  2. Answer the ten questions honestly. Begin answering the questions honestly and thoughtfully. Take your time to reflect on each question and provide the most accurate response. Remember, there are no right or wrong answers, only insights to be gained.
  3. Get your recommendations for services that will help you increase your relationship health
  4. Share your Love Test results with your partner and engage in a constructive conversation about your recommendations. Use the Discuss areas where you excel as a couple and identify areas where you can work together to enhance your connection.
  5. Choose a product or service, and commit to a time and place to implement the strategies and recommendations. Remember excellent relationship advice only works if you follow it, no matter what kind of program you choose

Real-life success stories from the Love Test

Improving connection in a relationship requires effort and commitment from both partners. Here are some tips to enhance your compatibility and strengthen your bond:

1. Effective communication: Communication is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship. Practice active listening, express your needs and feelings, and be open to feedback. Effective communication can help resolve conflicts and foster a deeper understanding of each other.

2. Shared activities and interests: Engage in activities that you both enjoy and explore new interests together. Shared experiences create a sense of connection and can strengthen your bond.

3. Emotional support: Be there for each other emotionally. Show empathy, validate each other’s feelings, and provide support during challenging times. Emotional support strengthens trust and intimacy.

4. Respect differences: Embrace and respect each other’s differences. Recognize that no two individuals are exactly alike, and differences can contribute to a richer and more fulfilling relationship.

5. Work on conflict resolution: Conflict is a natural part of any relationship. Learn healthy and constructive ways to resolve conflicts, such as active listening, compromise, and seeking win-win solutions.

By incorporating these tips into your relationship, you can enhance your life-long bond and create a stronger and more harmonious partnership.

1. Sarah and Mark: Sarah and Mark had been together for several years and were facing challenges in their relationship. They decided to take the Love Test to better understand their compatibility. The test recommended that they set up a DIY relationship retreat together. They purchased a communication workbook, reserved their favorite AirBNB, and enjoyed a wonderful three day retreat for a fraction of the cost of enrolling in a costly weekend workshop at an overpriced hotel on the other side of the country.

2. Emily and David: Emily and David were considering taking their relationship to the next level, but they wanted to ensure their communication was solid since they’ve both been hurt in the past by bad communication . They took the Love Test and discovered that they would benefit from a few sessions of traditional couples therapy to learn how to fight fair and avoid common pitfalls that they had experienced in their past relationships.

3. Alex and Rachel: Alex and Rachel had been together for fifteen years and began to feel like their whole life was centered around raising their kids and running the household together. They lacked romance and intimacy and had gotten out of the habit of going on dates and talking to each other about interesting topics. They enrolled in a weekend retreat after taking the Love Test and found that it was just what the doctor ordered. They had a great time together over the weekend and then committed to implementing a weekend date night at the advice on the facilitators.

These success stories demonstrate the power of the Love Test in helping couples decide what steps they want to take to keep thier relationship healthy an happy. Whether you are facing challenges or simply want to strengthen your connection, the Love Test can provide valuable insights and guidance.


Laura Silverstein, LCSW

Laura Silverstein is a Certified Gottman Couples Therapist, and author of Love Is An Action Verb.  She has thirty years of clinical experience and is the founder and co-owner of Main Line Counseling Partners, based in Bryn Mawr, PA. Laura is a frequent contributor to The Gottman Relationship Blog and has appeared as a relationship expert in media outlets such as the New York Times, ABC, and Today. She helps couples find more happiness as a research clinician, speaker, trainer, and writer with a positive, action-oriented style.

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