Is Your Partner's Love Language Words of Affirmation?
Gary Chapman outlines five different love languages in his book, "The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts." Words of affirmation are the verbal statements to your partner that communicate your love, appreciation and respect. If your partner's love language is words of affirmation, it is not enough just to feel positive thoughts about your relationship and your partner, it is important to say the words out loud.
Even if your partner has a different preferred love language, most people like to be appreciated and there are so many little things that make our loved ones extra special. From the small gestures that make us smile to the big moments of admiration, here is a list of 25 reasons you might love your partner.
Take a look through this list to see what three to five items particularly stand out to you. Then use them as a conversation starter to help your partner feel more loved.
25 Things I Absolutely Love About You
Here are 25 lovable qualities a partner can have that can make your relationship fulfilling and joyful:
- Kindness: A partner who is kind to you and others is a valuable trait in a relationship.
- Supportive: A partner who is supportive of your dreams and goals can help you achieve them.
- Understanding: A partner who understands you and accepts you for who you are is a comforting feeling.
- Respectful: A partner who respects your boundaries, opinions, and decisions is a sign of a healthy relationship.
- Honest: Honesty is a vital quality in a partner as it builds trust and open communication.
- Loyal: A partner who is loyal to you and your relationship is a foundation for a strong and long-lasting relationship.
- Sense of humor: A partner with a good sense of humor can bring joy and laughter into your relationship.
- Empathetic: A partner who can empathize with your feelings and emotions is a valuable trait in a relationship.
- Passionate: A partner who is passionate about their interests and hobbies can be inspiring and exciting to be around.
- Ambitious: A partner who is driven and ambitious can push you to achieve your goals and be your best self.
- Patient: A partner who is patient with you can make you feel valued and understood.
- Adventurous: A partner who is open to trying new things and exploring the world with you can create memorable experiences.
- Forgiving: A partner who can forgive you and move on from conflicts is an important trait in a relationship.
- Independent: A partner who has their own life and interests can bring balance and support to the relationship.
- Affectionate: A partner who shows affection through physical touch or verbal expressions can make you feel loved and appreciated.
- Trustworthy: A partner who is trustworthy and dependable can create a sense of security in the relationship.
- Self-aware: A partner who is self-aware of their emotions and behaviors can help create a healthy and communicative relationship.
- Positive: A partner who has a positive attitude can bring optimism and joy into the relationship.
- Responsible: A partner who takes responsibility for their actions and commitments can create a reliable and trustworthy relationship.
- Communicative: A partner who is open and communicative can create a strong and healthy relationship.
- Intelligent: A partner who is intelligent can engage you in meaningful conversations and bring new perspectives into your life.
- Creative: A partner who is creative can bring inspiration and excitement into the relationship.
- Spontaneous: A partner who is spontaneous and surprises you with thoughtful gestures can keep the relationship exciting.
- Grateful: A partner who is grateful and appreciative of the relationship can create a positive and loving environment.
- Understanding of your needs: A partner who understands your needs and tries to meet them can make you feel valued and loved.
Your partner is lovable and has many wonderful qualities. It's worth taking the time to direct your energy to the positive parts of who they are.
Intimacy and Conflict Relationship Personality Quizzes
In addition to the 5 Love Languages, which clarify how partners prefer to be loved, there are also different styles in how couples prefer to manage conflict and experience intimacy.
If you like taking relationship personality quizzes, here are two assessments for you. The first is a quiz that explores whether you prefer physical, emotional or intellectual intimacy and the second is a conflict style assessment tool to see which of John Gottman's conflict styles you prefer (Validating, Volatile or Avoidant.)