What’s Your Intimacy Style? (Couples Quizzes)

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Find Out Your Intimacy Style With a Free Relationship Personality Quiz

What’s your intimacy style? (Physical, Emotional or Intellectual) Are you curious about your intimacy style and how it affects your relationship? Take this free and informative quiz to discover your natural tendency when it comes to intimacy and learn specific personalized tips for improving your relationship.

What are the Four Styles of Intimacy in Relationships?

There are four intimacy connection styles in primary romantic relationships.

  1. Emotional Intimacy Connection Style
  2. Physical Intimacy Connection Style
  3. Intellectual Intimacy Connection Style
  4. Avoidant Intimacy Connection Style

We all experience these four kinds of intimacy at different times, and most people have one or two primary preferences regarding their favorite way to connect. The one thing these styles all have in common is that they have to do with vulnerability. The mind-body-heart connection is real. We can connect with our minds (intellectual intimacy), our bodies (physical intimacy), and our hearts (emotional intimacy). This connection occurs by taking risks with our partners in sharing different parts of ourselves to build trust and deepen connection.

  • Intellectual Intimacy results from intellectual vulnerability when we are curious and admit what we don’t know
  • Physical Intimacy results from physical vulnerability when we share our bodies in a way that both parties enjoy
  • Emotional Intimacy results from emotional vulnerability when we share our feelings
  • Intimacy Avoidance results from a limited level of vulnerability when we choose not to share (often as protection from getting hurt)

Take The Quiz Now!

Answering these questions will help you better understand your current intimacy style and how it affects and shapes your relationships. You’ll receive an individualized report on the benefits and challenges of your preferred style and recommended resources and next steps.

Also, you will not be forced to provide your email address to get your results, but if you’d like to get relationship tips in your inbox every Friday, sign up using the form at the bottom of the page.

I appreciate your interest in this relationship personality quiz and your commitment to learning about relationship wellness! 😊


Laura Silverstein, LCSW

Laura Silverstein is a Certified Gottman Couples Therapist, and author of Love Is An Action Verb.  She has thirty years of clinical experience and is the founder and co-owner of Main Line Counseling Partners, based in Bryn Mawr, PA. Laura is a frequent contributor to The Gottman Relationship Blog and has appeared as a relationship expert in media outlets such as the New York Times, ABC, and Today. She helps couples find more happiness as a research clinician, speaker, trainer, and writer with a positive, action-oriented style.

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